Beth Stallwood, author of ’WorkJoy: A Toolkit for a Better Working Life’ explains why we should challenge the concept of work-life balance
The notion of work/life balance has been talked about for decades with the underlying claim that if you achieve it, everything will be perfect, yet most of us haven’t managed to find this utopia! Let’s start by challenging the assumptions in the language. It puts work first in the sentence (and there’s something powerful about the ordering, isn’t there?).
Work is an important part of life, yet does it really come first out of everything? The phrase ‘work/life balance’ ignores the fact that you are still alive when you’re working and there is much life to be had at work - just think of the experiences, friends, and the sense of purpose it gives you.
It also suggests that things stay static when in reality, there are times when this simply isn’t true. Sometimes life outside of work takes over - like building a family, having a hobby, or moving house and sometimes work takes over - like big projects, working towards a qualification, or putting all your effort into achieving a promotion.
Trying to find the holy grail of work/life balance is like trying to find the needle in the haystack of life and you will likely find your energy is wasted on this impossible quest. That’s not to say that balance isn’t a good thing - having anything out of kilter can have a serious impact on your ability to maintain joy.
Instead of the see-saw of balance - being weighed down at one end or the other (or more realistically, the work end because I’m not hearing anyone saying they want less life and more work!) - how about creating a more realistic version of what work looks like in the context of your life?
Visualise for a moment a massive transparent balloon (one of those fancy ones from a party shop), that can have other balloons blown up inside it. The transparent balloon is representative of your whole life. Each inner balloon represents a feature of your life that is important to you like friends, or family, work (the paid kind), unpaid work and hobbies for example.
The balloons you create in your life will be unique to you and the size of each inner balloon can expand and contract based on the choices you make about how much time and energy you dedicate to them.
Your outer balloon is fixed by the annoying limitation of time available and even that is variable depending on the responsibilities you have in your life. The inner balloons are either controllable or at least influenceable. You might find that the more you look after the inner balloons, the more the outer balloon feels like it’s a little bit more flexible.
Once you’ve had a chance to map out your balloons, review what you have and consider the following:
So rather than aiming for the mythical work/life balance, why not experiment with opportunities to better understand and adapt how you can manage your time and energy investment across all areas of your life.
Stop and consider what’s really important to you. Maybe you’ll set and protect boundaries around balloons that have the habit of expanding beyond their allocated space. Perhaps you can breathe life into previously deflated balloons, ones that bring you joy.
You likely find that even a tiny bit of life into a balloon that brings you joy will infect other balloons through an osmotic effect, creating a disproportionately better outcome than you could even imagine.
Beth Stallwood is a coach, facilitator, speaker, consultant, author, and the founder of Create WorkJoy. She is the author of WorkJoy: A Toolkit for a Better Working Life
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